So you’re in the dog house, again. Or maybe you’re one of those romantic types but you’ve run out of ideas. Maybe you just want to show the woman you love that you do love her but don’t have a creative bone in your body. Maybe you’re none of the above but just strapped for cash, either way I’ve got you covered. Most men are good for at least one romantic date so if you’ve exhausted all possibilities on what to do next try some passion, mixed with creativity and a little more effort than usual and see what happens. Here are 20 Recession Proof Ways to Show a Woman You Love Her.
20. Tell her. I know sounds easy right, but it’s not. You cannot walk up to your lady and just say “hey babe, I love you.” She’s heard it before. Get creative and find a way to say that she’d never expect. Write a poem, leave a few lines of a poem on a post it note and place it on the mirror so when she wakes in the morning she sees it, send her a text message first thing in the morning so she knows she’s the first thing on your mind, say it in another language. Whatever you do just be creative. Remember there are so many ways to say I Love You.
19. Lay with her in the bed without the expectation of sex. Yes, I know this will be difficult for many of you, but sometimes a woman needs to know it’s not just about sex. The two of you lying together, you holding her, and enjoying her company means a lot. Who knows, she may just initiate sex and you’ve both won. Cost you nothing but gives you intimacy.
18. Everyday for 7 days tell your woman 7 different things you love about her and don’t say something like, “I love that you give me head…” ughhh no, obviously you’re a man and men like head, tell her things you love about her-not things you love that she does for you. Cost you nothing, but makes her feel special.
17. Get a sitter and leave work a little early, cook dinner, desert and have it all ready by candlelight ready when she gets home.
16. Get a sitter and turn your living room into a movie theater, complete with popcorn, her favorite beverage and all her favorite movies. Let’s be realistic when was the last time you took her to see one of the movies she wanted to see? Not many men want to watch The Color Purple, Pretty Woman, or Sex In the City, but for one night make it ALL about her. Seriously, how much ESPN can one woman take?
15. Pray with her in the morning before you two get out of bed and pray with her before you go to sleep. God’s love is unconditional; let her know that you are a man of God by praying with and for her each morning and night. When your relationship with God is right, so will your relationship with her be.
14. While most women would prefer that you pay for her to have a spa day there are some women who find it sexy if you massage her feet and polish her toe nails. It’s not so much how the pedicure turns out then it is the fact that you thought about doing it. So go buy some foot soak, a pumice stone, some lotion with a scent, a nail file, and her favorite color nail polish and get your pedicure/manicure on.
13. Write her a love letter. Once you’ve written it, address it to her and mail it to your home address-if you don’t share the same address mail it to her home address. She will be shocked that you took the time to write her a love letter but will be surprised that she’s received mail at home from you.
12. Tell her to take a half day at work and to meet you at the park Have a picnic basket ready with fruits, chocolates, wine, and some music and plan a romantic picnic. Stipulation, it must be done in the spring/summer months unless she enjoys being cold.
11. Copy some of your favorite pictures from your first date, wedding, trips you’ve taken together, the birth of your children, and any other special occasions you two have shared. Place the pictures in digital picture frame (price varies from $30 to $200) and give her to her as a just because gift. Women love to receive gifts.
10. Make her a CD. Not of songs that she likes-that would be stating the obvious. Find songs that express how you feel about her. Place the CD in her CD player in her car and leave her a Post-It-Note that says “Press Play.” She’ll not only feel special but she’ll be surprised by your creativity and thoughtfulness.
9. One Saturday morning bring her breakfast in bed. Be sure that she is sleep and get up extra early to prepare a hot breakfast. Rent her favorite movie and put in the DCD/Blu Ray player put the remote control on the tray with her breakfast and wake her up to a wonderful breakfast in bed.
8. Prepare a warm bath with candles, soft music and a glass of wine. When she gets off work lead her to the bathroom and tell her to relax that you’ve got dinner, the laundry and the kids under control and that she can relax for the remainder of the evening.
7. Buy her a rose for every year that you two have been together and be sure to know what the color of each rose means. For example red roses mean romance, pink roses mean grace and elegance, yellow roses mean happiness, white roses mean purity and innocence, orange roses mean energy and desire, and lavender roses mean enchantment. For the meaning of colors go to http://www.rkdn.org/roses/colors.asp. With every rose be sure to say what it means and why you are giving it to her. Keep in mind a dozen roses generally start at $35.
6. Date your wife, I mean you had to date her before you got married and fell in love, continue to date her. Open the car door, bring her chocolate and flowers on the date, and ask her questions you don’t already know the answers to. Fall in love all over again by getting a deeper connection with your wife. What woman doesn’t want to taken out on a date. While date nights are easy and easy to do because you know for sure that this is day you are going out and you have a sitter, but be spontaneous and surprise her by arranging for a sitter and taking her out on a date other than your arranged “date night”.
5. Have fun together, play a game-not Monopoly or Connect Four, I am saying play a game about love and see where it leads you. One of the best games to play is ‘Would You Rather? Love and Sex: Over 300 Amorously Absurd Dilemmas to Ponder’.
4. Turn a room or several rooms in your home into a romantic getaway. Go to JoAnns get some leopard print fabric and throw it across your bed, light some candles, play some erotic music, buy her some animal print lingerie and play Tarzan and Jane…unleash your wild side and watch the sparks fly.
3. I hate to state the obvious but buy her a gift with her in mind. Maybe she has been talking about a new CD that is due to come out, the idea is to listen to what she is talking about and beat her to the punch. Get it before she gets if for herself and say “hey babe, I saw this and I thought of you.” Women love to know that they are on your mind.
2. Just be considerate of her feelings. If you know it’s that time of the month or that a particular day of the year is tough for her because of the loss of a loved one just be considerate and ask her if there is anything you can do, or just do something nice for her. Cook her dinner, massage her back, hold her while she cries and for goodness sake if it’s that time of the month buy the woman some chocolate, ice cream or an ice cold Pepsi and don’t make mention of her weight.
1. Be honest. The worst thing you can do to someone you love is to lie to them, even if you feel it is a little white lie-DO NOT do it! Remember the truth only hurts one time, but a lie hurts every time you remember it. Your relationship cannot last if it is built on lies.
*Every woman is different some women prefer NO romance and just want hot and heavy sex, so do what works for her. I polled and talked to REAL women to create this list so TRUST and believe these are things that REAL women want. Remember it takes only a little effort to make someone you care about feel special.
Should any of you try any of these things let me know how it works out for you.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
1.01.2012
Regenerated (re•gen•er•at•ed)
re·gen·er·at·ed - (r-jn-rt)
1. To reform spiritually or morally.
2. To form, construct, or create anew, especially in an improved state.
3. To give new life or energy to; revitalize.
It's 2012, many of you woke up hung-over-piecing your night together like a puzzle, made peace with 2011 and said “this year I am going to stick to my resolutions…2012 is going to be better than 2011…this year I will be financially, spiritually, and physically stronger and better than I was in 2011…” I could go on with all the things I heard last night, but I won’t. I just think it’s interesting that each year we all say we’ll do or be a better person than we were last year. I do too so I’m not knocking your resolution to be a better you.
Now, if you read my New Years Day blog from last year you’ll remember I spoke about a girlfriend who said "2011 is going to be a good year for me!" Now you’ll also remember that she said the same thing about 2009 as well as 2010. However, each year around midnight she was upset at how her previous year went. Last night at 11:45pm I got a text from that same girlfriend and it read “2012 is going to be the year of no BS.” I thought to myself “really?” Now every year she said claimed was going to be hers, but this year she boldly stated that this is the year of no BS. I agreed, so this morning in less than 140 characters I updated my twitter status to read “Team-NO BS this year...you're either for us/against us-we take NO prisoners so join us/move out our way.” Yep, 2012 is going to be the year of NO BS for me as well.
I’d be remiss if I moved on to 2012 without acknowledging 2011, which was definitely a year of awakening for me. Looking at the last 12 months of my life I realized I had been sleep. There were so many things that I had slept on and when God finally woke me up it was as if the lights had come on for the very first time, Oprah calls this an "Äh-Ha" moment. There were effects and people in my life who I thought were perfect, however these people and “things “proved to be perfectly flawed. Now if I call myself a perfectly flawed work in progress how could I ever expect anyone or any “thing” in my life to be perfect? I woke up today in great spirits, ready to conquer this life, but more importantly I WOKE UP.
I titled this blog Regeneration because it’s fitting, I AM constructing a new Nicole and I feel like I have been given a new life or energy today. I don’t expect you to believe that on January 1st that something just clicked and BOOM I decided enough of the BS already or that on January 1st that I woke up and all of my reservations/fears/issues/etc. from 2011 had ceased to exist or that all those things, situations, or people from 2011 would be forgotten because that wouldnt be true. This regeneration has been a work in progress for quite some time now. I however decided after reading my girlfriend's text last night that January 1, 2012 would be the first day of the rest of my life, that I would no longer look to my past for answers to questions that I know I don’t want to know the answers to. I can’t change the past, I can’t forget that these things took place, I can’t change the hurt I felt and still feel but I can stop living in it.-that hurt/pain/guilt/shame/defeat of the past. One should never put current energy on past events, it’s not healthy nor is it productive, this I now know first hand and will live out moving forward.
I am grateful this morning for this new life God has given me. I now understand what is meant by living two lives. You have one life that you learn with; these are the mistakes you’ve made-your PAST. The other life is the one you live, the moments that exist now-your PRESENT. Which life are you currently living?
Love, Life, Life!
Nicole
1. To reform spiritually or morally.
2. To form, construct, or create anew, especially in an improved state.
3. To give new life or energy to; revitalize.
It's 2012, many of you woke up hung-over-piecing your night together like a puzzle, made peace with 2011 and said “this year I am going to stick to my resolutions…2012 is going to be better than 2011…this year I will be financially, spiritually, and physically stronger and better than I was in 2011…” I could go on with all the things I heard last night, but I won’t. I just think it’s interesting that each year we all say we’ll do or be a better person than we were last year. I do too so I’m not knocking your resolution to be a better you.
Now, if you read my New Years Day blog from last year you’ll remember I spoke about a girlfriend who said "2011 is going to be a good year for me!" Now you’ll also remember that she said the same thing about 2009 as well as 2010. However, each year around midnight she was upset at how her previous year went. Last night at 11:45pm I got a text from that same girlfriend and it read “2012 is going to be the year of no BS.” I thought to myself “really?” Now every year she said claimed was going to be hers, but this year she boldly stated that this is the year of no BS. I agreed, so this morning in less than 140 characters I updated my twitter status to read “Team-NO BS this year...you're either for us/against us-we take NO prisoners so join us/move out our way.” Yep, 2012 is going to be the year of NO BS for me as well.
I’d be remiss if I moved on to 2012 without acknowledging 2011, which was definitely a year of awakening for me. Looking at the last 12 months of my life I realized I had been sleep. There were so many things that I had slept on and when God finally woke me up it was as if the lights had come on for the very first time, Oprah calls this an "Äh-Ha" moment. There were effects and people in my life who I thought were perfect, however these people and “things “proved to be perfectly flawed. Now if I call myself a perfectly flawed work in progress how could I ever expect anyone or any “thing” in my life to be perfect? I woke up today in great spirits, ready to conquer this life, but more importantly I WOKE UP.
I titled this blog Regeneration because it’s fitting, I AM constructing a new Nicole and I feel like I have been given a new life or energy today. I don’t expect you to believe that on January 1st that something just clicked and BOOM I decided enough of the BS already or that on January 1st that I woke up and all of my reservations/fears/issues/etc. from 2011 had ceased to exist or that all those things, situations, or people from 2011 would be forgotten because that wouldnt be true. This regeneration has been a work in progress for quite some time now. I however decided after reading my girlfriend's text last night that January 1, 2012 would be the first day of the rest of my life, that I would no longer look to my past for answers to questions that I know I don’t want to know the answers to. I can’t change the past, I can’t forget that these things took place, I can’t change the hurt I felt and still feel but I can stop living in it.-that hurt/pain/guilt/shame/defeat of the past. One should never put current energy on past events, it’s not healthy nor is it productive, this I now know first hand and will live out moving forward.
I am grateful this morning for this new life God has given me. I now understand what is meant by living two lives. You have one life that you learn with; these are the mistakes you’ve made-your PAST. The other life is the one you live, the moments that exist now-your PRESENT. Which life are you currently living?
Love, Life, Life!
Nicole
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