If 2009 was a year of commencement, 2010 would then be the conclusion. I came to the conclusion that I’m tired of crying, complaining, and being complacent. I came to the conclusion that no one else has the power to make me do something that I don't want to do. There were so many people who acted like weeds, destroying my beautiful garden. I had to pull weeds, but first I had to recognize that I allowed the weeds to grow. I never took the steps to stop them from growing so I was to blame. People are going to always do what you allow them to do. Since I was the source of the issue I had to end the expectation that people would give what I gave. See I think I’m a pretty good friend, I’m honest, trustworthy, fun to be around, giving, and caring-at least that’s how I see myself. However, I give all of that but sometimes I don’t feel it’s reciprocated. I had to realize that some people just weren’t able to give those things, not because they didn’t want to give those things but that’s just not who they are so I had to accept that. A few years ago I accepted that I was a beautifully flawed woman and this year I had to accept that these women were flawed as well, but maybe they hadn’t come to grips with their flaws. Anyway here are the 10 lessons I learned in 2010.
- Hindsight is 20/20, but I can’t change the past, nor would I want to because all of those things brought me to the place where I am today-ACCEPTANCE
- People outgrow one another; that does not mean that we love each other any less. It just means that our interests have changed. And while we may not kick it like we used to we can still be cool.
- People are going to do what I allow them to do. If I don’t like the way I am being treated I have to right and the ability to change that.
- Listen more and talk less.
- My version of what happened is my story it may contain some truth but it’s not necessarily “THE” truth. Everyone has their own perspective; respect all vantage points even if you disagree.
- Be quick to laugh and slow to criticize.
- "When people show you who they are, believe them." What other proof do you need?
- Do what you say you’re going to do, be it getting financially, emotionally, physically, or spiritually fit. People take you on your word.
- Learning can come at any time, in any place and from any one-even kids. Take time to listen to a child’s train of thought, you may learn to look at things from a different perspective.
- I will no longer bite my tongue. I will tell people how I feel on site, however, instead of getting good and "ignant" I will do it with more tact than I have in past years.
That is all for now.
God bless you all in the upcoming year and I hope you all take inventory for the stock you had over the last year.
Love, Live, Life
Nicole
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